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Stop, Listen.

Posted on November 22, 2019November 25, 2019 by Kieran in Leadership

Does any of the following resonate with the reader?

I have no idea where the following originated, but I extend my sincere thanks and appreciation to its author because of its message which I believe to be even more important in our busy personal and professional lives.

LISTEN.

When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving advice, you have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen to me, and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me, and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.

Listen!! All I asked was that you listen, not talk or do, just hear me.

Advice is cheap: 20 cents will get you both a Dear Abby and Bill Graham in the same newspaper. AND I can do that for myself, I’m not helpless. Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.

When you do something for me that I can, and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and weakness. But, when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you and can get about the business of understanding what’s behind this irrational feeling. When that’s clear, the answers are obvious, and I don’t need advice. Irrational feel make sense when we understand what’s behind them.

So please listen and just hear me and if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn and I’ll listen to you!

Anonymous

Surely, there’s a lesson to be learnt here?

In this ever-changing world.

Posted on November 22, 2019November 22, 2019 by Kieran in Uncategorized

In a dynamic, changing world it can be difficult to deal with personal and business pressures for someone.

"So what ?" you might say, there’s nothing new in that statement!

Of course not but it is vital for people to be able to seek help and guidance when these pressures seem overwhelming; sometimes to the extent it causes conflict which under ‘normal’ circumstances would be less difficult.

People often contact me when s situation gets intolerable and, in some instances, has (or is beginning to) affect their home and business lives.

The conflict and subsequent stress substantially affects an individual in so many ways.

That is why I believe that a ‘neutral’ person is crucial to re-establishing effective relationships.

My experience extends over a wide range of businesses that includes the three main business sectors: public, private and not-for-profit organisations.

I was asked recently to provide an idea of the number and type of companies for whom I have been contracted. Much to my surprise this totalled 75!

I will ‘confess’ that some of these have not always been positive but what a learning adventure it has been!!

However, it has provided me with substantial knowledge of how leaders and managers treat others, including me, without supporting evidence but unfortunately who lack that fundamental, though elusive skill, listening.

Inspirational Workspaces

Posted on January 9, 2017January 18, 2017 by Kieran in Workspaces

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Take Time to Think

Posted on January 7, 2017January 18, 2017 by Kieran in Leadership

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